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              A LOVE HATE STORY



  • Lack of sexual desire: Lack of sexual interest or willingness to be sexual.

  • Sexual arousal disorder: Your desire for sex is there, but you aren't getting turned on.

  • Orgasmic disorder: You have difficulty in achieving orgasm.

  • Sexual pain disorder: You have pain associated with vaginal contact.

  • Your partner is having problems with erections...don't take it personally. 


  • Exhaustion is a major contributor here, sex is not always the first thing on the mind after a long day of work or taking care of the kids...or both. 

  • Lack of sleep.  

  • STRESS affects everything!

  • Relationship issues play a big role. Problems communicating = trouble in the bedroom. 

  • Illness or recovery from surgery.

  • Certain medications like the birth control pill can interfere with your libido.

  • Genitourinary Syndrome of Menopause - vaginal dryness and/or atrophy.

  • Vaginal infection.

  • Endometriosis.

  • Vaginismus.

  • Prolapse of pelvic organs.

  • Thyroid disorder.

  • Depression/anxiety/poor body image.

The Pill and Low T

Most birth control pills contain the female hormones estrogen and progestin. Many pills lower your testosterone. That’s the hormone that makes you want to have sex. You probably think of testosterone as a guy hormone. Women have it, too, just not as much. Most women who take the pill still make enough testosterone to have a healthy love life. But if you’re low to begin with, your sex drive could take a hit.





  • Sleep - more, more, and more of that good stuff. Sleep is SOOO important. At least 8 hours a night. 

  • Choose Dark Chocolate: is an excellent source of bioflavonoids, which supports the circulatory system, allowing for engorgement of sexual organs, arousal, and lubrication.

  • Stress reduction - Pure some Dr. Teal's Epsom salt in a hot bath and RELAX.

  • Hydration.

  • Exercise - Take a walk, get out, see some nature and turn off your technology. 

  • Have a date night once a week, that's right you heard me, doctor's orders. You find time to schedule manicures, go shopping, and grab a coffee. Why not do the same for sex? Finding it hard or embarrassing to schedule with your significant other, how about try texting him/her. Better yet, try sexting him/her, make it fun. 

  • According to the AARP: “From the scalp to the soles of the feet, every square inch of the body is a sensual playground…..Too many men focus on a few corners and overlook the rest….Think of sex as a whole-body massage that eventually includes the genitals. Whole-body massage produces deep relaxation, which helps women (and men) have orgasms. Massage your partner gently from head to toe. Try massage lotion (available at bath and body shops). Some areas that can feel surprisingly erotic include the scalp, ears, face, neck, feet and — who knew? — the backs of the knees.”

  • Acupuncture - it can't hurt, well maybe it can ---- but if it helps...

  • Counseling - relationship.

  • Sex therapy. Rachel Wright provides sex therapy for couples.


  • Maca from the native Peruvian maca root plant has been used for centuries to enhance fertility and sex drive, and there’s research to back it up. Take 1.5 to 3.5 grams a day for 2 to 12 weeks to see results.  


-Available online. You do NOT need a prescription.

  • Zestra Essential Arousal Oil --- Blend of botanical oils and extracts with no chemicals, hormones, parabens or drugs. Peaks in just 10 minutes and lasts up to 45 minutes!


  • Vaginal DHEA  - Nature’s Naturopathic ReNewed Vaginal Suppositories.

  • Intrarosa - A prescription vaginal DHEA used in women after menopause to treat moderate to severe pain during sexual intercourse caused by changes in and around the vagina that happen with menopause.

  • Estrogen: vaginal insert or ring.

  • Bupropion.

  • Osphena - For vaginal dryness.

  • ADDYI --- A newer medication that is indicated for the treatment of premenopausal women with acquired, generalized hypoactive sexual desire disorder (HSDD). 

  • Oxytocin -  Regulates the arousal level of our nervous system.

  • FSC Cream/Scream Cream/Screaming O Cream. 


  • Vibrator --- Applied to the clitoris, labia, and vagina.

  • Vaginal dilators

  • The EROS clitoral therapy device (EROS-CTD), is FDA-approved for women who experience reduced sensation, lubrication, and ability to achieve orgasm. Available by prescription, the device consists of a small vacuum pump that is placed over the clitoris to apply gentle suction to the region and increase blood flow. The device was tested on 25 women, 15 of whom complained of sexual arousal disorder. Of those 15 women, all 15 experienced increased sensation, 7 reported more orgasms, 12 more satisfaction, and 11 more lubrication. Of the 10 normally functioning controls, 4 experienced more sensation, 4 improved orgasm, 2 better satisfaction, and 3 more lubrication with the device. No adverse effects were reported from the device.

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